about me

Growing up, I was socially confident, well-liked, and outwardly capable. What I didn’t realise at the time was under this social ease was a constant scanning, a performance. I was being a version of myself that ensured I’d be liked, afraid that if the real me showed I’d be too much, or not enough.

The contrast between how others experienced me and my inner world grew quietly but painfully. Real connection involved imperfection, and I was unwilling to be imperfect.

Then, in my early twenties, a destabilising psychedelic trip at a new year’s festival forced this all to change. My reality literally deconstructed around me, and after two weeks of spiralling I broke down in the middle of a family dinner.

I’d suggested the benefits of therapy for years, but when it came my moment to ask for help I was full of apprehension, fear, and shame. I only took the step because I was desperate.

The experience was transformative; I began to expose parts of myself I’d been hiding and instead of being met with shock or rejection I was met with curiosity, interest, and even humour. Whatever this space was, I fell in love with it.

Over the following decade I began experimenting on myself with various forms of therapy, self-help and group work. I lived in multiple countries and cultures, read deeply, spent time in silent retreat and returned to formal study. I wanted to push myself to the limit, to see if it was possible to be as authentic as I could in every setting — in friendships, dating, at work, in big and small groups. 

I saw how our hidden beliefs shape our outer realities, how fundamental connection is, and how the path to almost everything that matters is through vulnerability.

As the years passed the intensity of this quest softened but the willingness to encounter all parts of myself, to connect deeply, and to live with authenticity and courage has gone nowhere.

My coaching draws on all of this. I will stand alongside you as you find your authentic voice, discover what it is you actually care about, and turn that into meaningful action.