about me

Growing up, I was socially confident, well-liked, and outwardly capable. I could adapt to any setting, work a room, make myself belong. I didn’t realise at the time but under this social ease was a constant scanning, a performance. I was being a version of myself that ensured I’d be liked, afraid that if the real me showed I’d be too much, or not enough.

The contrast between how others experienced me and my inner world grew quietly but painfully. I could mask it with partying, socialising, and work, but in private — especially in intimacy — the performance couldn’t hold. I felt liked, but alone — real connection involved imperfection and I was unwilling to be imperfect.

Then, in my early twenties, I had an incredibly destabilising psychedelic trip at a new year’s festival that forced this all to change. My reality literally deconstructed around me, and after two weeks of spiralling, I finally broke down in the middle of a family dinner. I’d suggested the benefits of therapy to people for years, but when it came to my moment to ask for help, I was full of apprehension, fear, and shame. I only took the step because I was desperate.

That first therapeutic experience was transformative; it was the first space in which I was willing to be completely vulnerable. Instead of being met with shock or rejection I was met with curiosity, interest, and even humour. I felt seen for the first time, and began to see my full self too. It was like re-entering the flow of human connection. I had discovered a world of truth, connection and discovery.

From there my journey deepened. I became obsessed with uncovering all the hidden parts of myself that might be steering or limiting me without my awareness. Over the following decade I sought out teachers, experiences, and practices, experimenting on myself with various forms of therapy, self-help and group work. I lived in multiple countries and cultures, read deeply, spent time in silent retreat and returned to formal study. I wanted to push myself to the limit, to see if it was possible to be as authentic as I could in every setting— in friendships, dating, at work, big and small groups.

I saw how our hidden beliefs shape our outer realities, I came to deeply appreciate how fundamental connection is, I experienced the truth that the path to almost everything that matters is through vulnerability.

As the years passed the intensity of the search softened, but the willingness to encounter all parts of myself, to connect deeply and live to as authentically as I can, has gone nowhere.

My coaching draws on all of this. I will stand alongside you as you find and speak from your authentic voice, discover what it is you actually care about and want, turn that into action, and meet and fall in love with the parts that once held you back.